What do you prefer — Society’s normalcy or yours?
Are our lives defined by a timeline? A stereotype? Has anyone ever felt they should have started their career early in life? We need to find some answers.
The society we live in has conventionally wired us to follow pre-determined defined rules and timetables throughout our lives. And unfortunately, we tend to stick to the same without much reasoning at any point in our lives because life is a race now. The power and influence the society holds on us are undeniable, especially in India. There is nothing wrong with following an outlined time table but if someone isn’t endeavoring to do the same, they should not be snubbed. A cold shoulder from near and dear ones makes people question their intelligence and reasoning. It’s hard for society to accept people who think out of the box. We live in a democracy; shouldn’t people have the freedom to choose the kind of life they wish to live? Unluckily, in our nation, the order of events (job, marriage, family, retirement) has already been decided by elders and they expect us to follow it staunchly.
I started my career at 29, which is quite late according to people I know and society at large, however, I don’t think so. I started when I mastered the skills and could take the job’s onus. Starting something when you can give your utmost best is my notion, others might have a different perspective and that’s fine. Each one of us should create our path.
Well, it’s not just about the career, till we don’t discuss marriage, a woman’s life is incomplete. No? I am 30 and unmarried and extremely happy in my space. Nonetheless, it is a huge concern for society, strongly believing I might be depressed, unhappy or simply there must be a problem with me. This long-lost belief of everything should be done in the “right age” is ludicrous, to say the least. I often wonder who decides it. It’s high time we change this thinking and give the choice to the individuals. It is time we stop surrendering ourselves to the obnoxious rules and timetables of the society.
Let’s explore our existence and find our purpose in life without the fear of being ostracized. Being different is not wrong, it’s just a matter of choices. Similarly, following a stereotypical life is also not wrong as that’s the path some decides for themselves.
People should be given the freedom to make their choices and live with it confidently. It is extremely powerful to be fully engaged in all aspects of your life. Don’t let anyone affect your sanity and hamper your path towards your defined life.