The Game of Blaming
When you blame others, you give up your power to change.
— By Robert Anthony
How often have we all blamed someone else for the miseries in our lives? The answer is countless. Till we stop accusing others and become positively self-critical, we will never move forward. Why do we tend to look for a pilot to be questioned and not take the responsibility ourselves? Why are hard times perceived as gloomy and not a learning opportunity? Why is it always easy to condemn others? Questions galore but no answers.
The art of making others responsible for all the difficulties happening to us is nothing but blaming. The minute an unfortunate event takes place, we tend to blame others. Our minds cloud our perception the moment things don’t go as per our presumed direction, hence the blame game. It appears to be a defense mechanism for many, as it’s easier to allege someone else for our despairs rather than accept the onus ourselves. The majority of people lack self-awareness; it’s more complicated and demanding to be oneself — easier to be the blamer than being blamed. As we lay the whole thing on another individual, we feel more superior as opposed to being the “bad guy”! Modern society seems to support this notion perfectly.
After the failure of my last relationship, I learned, when we accept the weight of our doings, taming the mind and emotions become effortless. Till the time I was holding my partner blameworthy, it was painful for me as well. Nonetheless, the moment I took the burden of my actions, it instantaneously helped me feel better. My psychologist aided me to fathom the concept of acceptance of our deeds and how it would benefit me in the future. She also elucidated how taking account of my conduct would alleviate the agony and help me achieve peace of mind.
Humans fail to comprehend that looking for someone to be held liable won’t make the adversities disappear but, accepting and learning would. We aren’t perfect and are allowed to make mistakes because humans are work in progress till the last breath. Errors are supposed to be embraced and not thought of as a punishment or something to be ashamed of. It is imperative to acknowledge and take control of one’s acts as our gaffes define our personality and help us attain wisdom. Believe me when I say it’s worth it.
