Am I fit to be your Life Partner?
Matrimony. What comes to our minds when we hear this word? Wanted — a tall, fair, slim girl! Wanted a smart, handsome, and well-settled boy! Haven’t we all encountered such cynical advertisements in our lives? Choosing a life partner on the basis of such cosmetic and superficial points is extremely shallow. It is astonishing to see that such bizarre standards of marriage still exist in this modern era.
Nowadays, the institution of marriage has become a conventional ceremony than a sacred union of two souls. Most families tend to follow a checklist, where physical characteristics like skin colour, height, weight and beauty hold more credence than intellect and moral values. People are considered fit to tie the knot only if they manage to fulfil these attributes. In olden times, the concept of nuptials was based on respecting each other and accepting each other’s individualities. Appearance rarely held any importance in the minds of families as the character of the potential bride or groom was given more prominence. However, in latter times, education and exposure has changed the game. Instead of becoming progressive, I would say they have become more regressive and prejudicial. Majority have fallen in the trap of immaterial aspects and started giving significance to inconsequential standards. It is the compatibility between a couple that makes a marriage work and not futile characteristics like skin colour etc.
Since the time I have been searching for a partner, I have grappled with similar circumstances. So far, I have met quite a few boys and during one such matchmaking process, I came across a suitable prospect, however, they rejected me, as I am petite. Time and again, I have endured repudiation due to my ‘short height’. Even though, I courteously and unreservedly accepted the rebuffs but, the reasons given were unfathomable. However, it is crucial for to comprehend as to why should a person’s height make such a difference?
The process of marriage should be a happy phase in a person’s life and not something that takes a toll on them. Perhaps, we have failed miserably in recognizing the conjecture of a wedding. It is time for all to contemplate what encompasses a happy marital life — color or love, height or understanding, weight or trust, and connection. Perhaps it's time for us to ponder enormously over this. Believe me when I say it will be worth it.
